wyrld o schmarkolusrecieved this from my good friend this morning....i really need to have this tattoo'd to my head...
Tom's 10 "Facts" of Life
By Tom Hoobyar
Article Word Count 1029, average reading time 4.1 minutes.
1. YOU ARE THE CENTER OF YOUR UNIVERSE; STAY THERE.
As a young sailor I learned that when you're in a strange town, you take your corners wide and keep your hands out of your pockets. In other words, you need to stay balanced. You need to be alert and ready to react to surprises. Come to think of it, that's a pretty good rule in ANY unfamiliar situation.
Personal balance. There's a reason that every spiritual work throughout history urges prayer and meditation -- it's an antidote to the confusions of life. Protect your personal boundaries and respect those of others. Pay attention to where you stop and others begin.
Human beliefs about reality are either arbitrary or accidental. Choose to be arbitrary when possible. It's wise to choose beliefs that support health and happiness, so, whether or not things happen for a reason, I choose to believe that they do. It consoles me and makes me more resilient in dealing with life's inevitable ups and downs.
2. YOUR EXPERIENCE IS PRETTY MUCH THE SAME AS EVERONE ELSE'S EXPERIENCE.
We all have aches and pains, joys and fears, and we breathe the same air, sit in the same traffic, see the same television, and walk the same earth. Although we're fed a lot of junk about our differences, people everywhere have MUCH more in common than in difference. If you focus on commonalities you'll get along better with everyone.
3. YOUR ACTIONS ARE IN SERVICE OF FEAR, OR OF LOVE. CHOOSE.
Our actions are driven by either fear or love. Fear of consequences, real or imagined, accounts for a lot of human progress, and a WHOLE lot of human tragedy. Love, on the other hand, drives us to invent, to create, to give and to grow. Think about which quality you want to govern your life.
4. NOBODY WAKES UP DECIDING TO BE THE VILLAIN OF THE STORY.
Everyone thinks they're the "star" of their movie, and has reasons for what they do, even if it sucks or doesn't work. So don't waste time complaining about others -- figure out how to manage, tolerate or avoid them.
5. "NOBODY DOES NUTTIN'."
This means that most people are so distracted and disorganized that they only attend to the most essential, critical or familiar things in their lives. Your priorities are not theirs, so don't take it personally when you're overlooked, un-thanked or your call is not returned. Everyone listens to their favorite internal radio station -- W.I.I.F.M. -- standing for, "What's In It For Me?" Self-interest is natural and healthy, and you can use this understanding to persuade and influence. Selfishness carried to an extreme, however, is a vice with a price.
6. MOST PEOPLE ARE WORRIED THAT THEY'RE "UNZIPPED".
Are you self-conscious? Most people are. They're walking around, worried that people may notice their missing button, their bad hairdo, their poor credit, and their general shortcomings. And they will appreciate the person who makes it clear, in word and deed, that they're just fine as they are. Nobody's perfect. The biggest pretenders are the most insecure inside.
7. YOU MAKE YOUR HABITS -- AND THEN YOUR HABITS MAKE YOU.
The biggest and most significant acts in life are little daily habits, not huge efforts. The prime values in life are created just like gardening or regular saving -- little daily acts. Floss, save, exercise, meditate, say thank you, smile. Doing the right little thing at the right time can make more difference than a grand gesture performed too late. The most important qualities in life are managed by these regular acts done on a daily basis -- spirituality, health, wealth, relationships, and the building of your personal character. All are created by daily habits -- not some dramatic one-time act.
8. THERE IS A HELL, AND IT STARTS EARLY.
People build it with moral shortcuts, regrets about lost opportunities, with resentments and with guilt. Then add jealousy and envy, and they've entered Hell's suburbs and are starting to lose all joy. Those who avoid doing anything that requires effort -- physical exercise or forgiving or doing something for someone else -- grow more narrow and less flexible day by day.
By the time they get to "downtown" Hell they've got a pretty bad attitude about almost everything, and now others are getting the message that they're a downer and it seems like the world doesn't love them. And they're right -- it doesn't, because they're toxic to be around. Pretty soon their immune system gets the message and their afflictions begin -- their relationships are desolate and life becomes a drag. When they look ahead, their future looks just like their past. On and on. Bleak.
9. THERE IS A HEAVEN, AND YOU CREATE IT ON EARTH.
when you adopt this approach, your life gradually turns Heavenly, bit by bit. It doesn't take much, just some daily attention. You invest in good memories, choosing your behaviors so that you can enjoy looking back on your life.
You do it by small acts of generosity to others, making them smile and feel better. You do it by little acts of courage -- doing the right thing when no one but you will ever know you did it. That brings self respect. You do it by telling the truth, even if it's inconvenient or embarrassing. That brings credibility and trust. And makes you careful about what you do, or commit to doing.
You do it by noticing the amazing number of things in life there are to be grateful for, even if your thanks are silent. You build Heaven by stretching sometimes, to try something new or a little scary, and learning that you are more flexible than you thought. Humans are the most flexible beings on this planet, and it feels good when you fulfill your nature.
10. IT'S NEVER TOO LATE. DECIDE!
You can turn your life around in a moment by simply deciding to make it better. You can learn something life-changing at any time, and begin changing your life immediately. Experience comes in moments -- and the moments will keep coming for you until they finally stop. How do you want your next moments to be? It's up to you. Each moment is a gift, and a chance to make a different choice comes to you each second. So choose, and let your life become a celebration.
